Once, the little gifts that couples gave out to wedding guests were as elegantly predictable as just about every other aspect of a traditional wedding. A little bud vase printed with the happy couple’s names, perhaps. Or a tiny faux-Lenox picture frame inscribed with the date.
Somewhere along the way, couples and wedding planners took a different approach. They figured out that fragile trinkets like these were often taken home and ignored, or, worse, left behind at the reception.
Happily, as with so much modern wedding planning, favors have gotten a whole lot more personalized, creative and, in some cases, delicious.
Couples who opt to give guest favors are seeking something that distinguishes their wedding from others, but is relatively inexpensive, said Lauren Kay, deputy editor of TheKnot.com. The Knot’s 2016 survey found that of the 78 percent of couples giving favors to their guests, the average investment ranged between $2 and $5 per guest, depending on the number of guests and the budget.
“What can you really get for $2 or $3 that people are really going to want to hang on to and that will really represent you?” asked Kay.
The answer for many couples is creative personalization: a gift that helps tell their story.
Journalists Caitlin Kelly and Jose Lopez created a memorable favor for their 2011 wedding: Knowing that their colleagues often treasure press passes from major events, they designed authentic-looking, laminated press passes for their reception. Guests could wear these tongue-in-cheek, all-access passes on lanyards throughout the event, and take them home as mementos.
If your guests have traveled to reach a wedding destination, your gift to them may be waiting at their hotel. “Welcome bags” usually offer a mix of practical things (cheese and crackers for the room, for example, and perhaps water and a packet of Advil for the morning after) and fun items designed to highlight something about the couple or location.
Spending on these “swag bags” may range from about $6 to $15 per bag, depending on the couple’s budget and the number of out-of-town guests. Give one bag per room or couple, rather than individual bags.
Edible gifts solve the problem of guests having to pack unplanned items in a suitcase or carry something fragile home. Small succulent plants are advertised as great favors, but they leave guests with the challenge of getting them home.
Wedding guests also get hungry. So some couples solve both problems by offering food gifts: a jar of local honey or a box of chocolates from a local business. For weddings at a winery, Kay said, a split of wine with a personalized label is a perfect gift.
Another option that’s cost-effective: Offer pretty takeout containers that guests can fill with cookies as they leave the reception. Or, for couples not hosting a brunch the next day, offer gourmet muffins or jars of granola with bags of fancy tea to be enjoyed the next morning.
Again, the local tie is popular, as is do-it-yourself: One of Brody’s clients “had family come over and they all made homemade apple butter,” she said. In the months before the wedding, the family made batches from local apples and then packed the apple butter by hand into mason jars tied with ribbons.